For all my
bitching about being viewed as pussy, I will admit there has been the occasional moment where you might look at some of what I have written and tell me that I am guilty of just what I resent.
Some of you may remember
the man from the wedding. I am not gonna lie about it - he was to a certain extent cock. Well, cock and tongue - but you see my point.
I saw him, I pursued him, I wanted to fuck him hard...and I had no plans on ever seeing him ever again.
He had his way with me, and then I had my way with him - and then we probably had our way with each other a couple of times, sometimes it is not entirely clear who is having who. We fucked the way you fuck someone you know you are never seeing again - with complete abandon. It was
give-it-to-me-dirty-because-I-don't- need-to-look-you-in-the-eye-ever-again sex.
At the end of the night he was sitting on the edge of my bed putting on his shoes: "
give me your email address."
I looked up from searching for my clothes and smiled, "
you don't have to do that."
"
What do you mean?"
"
I mean, lets not make this more than it was. Let's appreciate it for its own sake."
I said it then and I reiterate it now: I did not need an awkward courtesy email to legitimize a very pleasurable one night stand. So, you see, I do not mind fucking for fuckings sake. In fact, I quite heart random ass.
But, and you knew there was one coming...
but, although it was a one night stand he wasn't just cock.
When I was with wedding guy, when he was in my bed for his momentary visit into my life, I was interested in him - and not just for the myriad of ways in which he could get me off.
In between fucking we talked. We talked about the wedding, about newlywed love, about his girlfriend (um, who was also at the hotel...). We talked about ourselves - not with the depth you sometimes talk with lovers - but we engaged much as possible in that temporary space. I viewed him as a human being and I was interested in connecting with this person I was with, however fleeting his presence in my life would be. And, to be fair, had he really wanted to strike up a follow up three email correspondence, I would have engaged.
That, to me, makes the difference between fucking a person you never plan on seeing again and seeing them as cock. Some of you might argue that this is a thin line - but it is, in fact, enormous. The difference is seeing someone for their humanity as opposed for their potential as a human vibrator.
The humanity is what is missing from my interaction with the pussy guy.
I might pursue you like prey, I might fuck you and never plan on talking to you again, you might find yourself a pawn in my game of seduction - but, I will be seducing
you, fucking
you, playing the game with
you. Trust me, you will be able to tell the difference...