HNT: Favourite

I can't believe it, but this was the year I started doing HNT. It feels like it must have been longer, but I have only been playing since March. Once you start there is no going back, is there?

This shot is my favorite of the year. I think it is the vulnerability, the representation of giving over of control, that speaks to me. It also doesn't hurt that it is reminiscent of a delightful sexual experience (and by that I mean fucking) that brings a smile to my face when I remember it.

Jealous?

You should be. Because tonight I am having dinner with Aurore, the Duchess and Topaz. I am not sure it gets more awesome than that.

If all the sexy is sucked out of the rest of the world because of the combination of such dirty hot ladies in one restaurant then you have my profound apologies.

HNT: Wishes...

Dear Dirty Darlings,

For those of you who have not been alerted to the themes, for HNT this week we are supposed to pick three fellow bloggers and tell them what we are going to get them for Christmas.

I realized that all of my wishes were along the same lines so, instead of gifting three specific lovelies of the group of you, I will instead tell you what I wish for you all: that you find what you are searching for.

Most of us out here are searching for something at least on some level: community, understanding, a voice, attention, support, love, relationships, the ability to say the things we do not dare to say in real life. I wish that whatever it is that you search for here becomes more plentiful in your off-screen life.

I also want to thank all of you: my fellow bloggers, my readers and commenters, those of you who have taken the time to email me - it is amazing how people you have never met in person can have a real impact on you. I never would have imagined it possible, but this world has had a real effect on me -you have helped me find parts of myself I thought long gone and helped me to understand myself and speak in my own voice. I am now, and will always be, incredibly grateful for this.

I wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays with so very much love,

Kimberly

Fucking Tutorial

I don't know about you, but when I have been with someone for long enough I get in sexual habits. I won't use the word rut, because that implies a dissatisfaction I don't feel. It is a habit because you get used to doing certain things, making certain moves and going about your sexual business in a certain way.

Everyone has their quirks, their likes and dislikes - and the husband is no exception, but after long enough with the same person you almost forget how to fuck anyone else, you lose your creative streak in favour of those solid gold sure to get you off moves. The thing is, those moves are often partner specific. If you are looking for an over share: I was mystified, mystified, when a new partner told me he didn't particularly like having his balls licked. Who knew?

Another example, I feel like I can't be on top effectively. I almost forget how, it kinda stumps me a little. My husband doesn't have the patience to let me take the lead. He is, for lack of a better word, directing - he tends to move me and take the lead. So, over years, I have become less aggressive - my style has shifted somewhat in response to him.

Upon reflection, I am positive that I also used to be more directing in bed. I clearly remember being the one pushing my partner down and climbing on top. Which is not to say I don't do it now, but I feel like I need more practice to be able to do it effectively.

Maybe what I need is a tutor. One that doesn't mind letting me play a little and showing me a few tricks of their own.

Does experiment with fucking qualify as a New Year's Resolution?

Group Post: By the Twinkling Lights...

Here is who is playing this week. Click on through...

Amy:http://www.moresexchocolateandredlipstick.wordpress.com
Gray - http://mygrayline.blogspot.com
Veronica: http://anothersuburbanmom.blogspot.com
Dangerous Lilly: http://dangerouslilly.com
FG Sakes: http://fgsakes.blogspot.com/
Topaz: http://topaz-gemology.blogspot.com
BDenied: http://cuckold-husband-bdenied.blogspot.com
Salt and Pepper @ http://cellobiscuit.blogspot.com
Ronjazz: www.ronjazz.blogspot.com
Hubman:http://hubmanshangout.wordpress.com
Duchess: http://theduchessissexy.blogspot.com
Petal: http://secretlifeofaslummymummy.blogspot.com/
Autumn http://autumnmistspeaks.blogspot.com
Barefoot Dreaming: http://dreamingbearfoot.blogspot.com

So Close I Could Touch You

There is one of you out there right now. One of you watching me, reading me - and you don't know it, but I am literally just a very few miles from where you are sitting.


I recognize the ISP of where you are - it shows me the name of your hotel. You are reading and downloading me, bringing me into your space and, dirty darling, I am so close I could be there in minutes. Minutes.


Knocking on your door, saying hello and perhaps doing much more than talking. Have I told you how much I adore hotel room sex? How much I love the utterly clean sheets and the complete sense of abandon? Hotel sex is dirty sex.


I will walk past you on my way to work tomorrow. I wonder: if you were outside catching a cab and saw me on the street, would you recognize me? Do you have your eyes open enough to see me?


Sleep well...

HNT: Let It Snow

Winter has finally descended on this Errant Wife. In my opinion nothing says 'Christmas' like being stripped of my seasonally red bra and nothing says afternoon in bed like a blizzard. Trust me, dirty darlings, it is warm in here ;)

Make sure to swing by on Osbasso to see who else is playing and don't forget about the Other HNT.

Threesome

No, not that kind. I wish.

The slightly awkward kind.

Has anyone ever been to a smallish big party, say 50 people, where your husband and former lover who kinda know each other are going to meet up for the first time since they became aware of...having a certain errant woman in common?

'Cause if you have, I am going to need some advice. And no, not of the who puts it where variety, I have the sense that this - sadly - is not going to wind up in a pig-roast kind of situation.

In a flurry of over thinking/over worrying, I asked them both whether they had any emotional needs that required all of us getting together for a drink first, which resulted in both of them saying "no" and then teasing me.

Mercifully I do not need to be worried about anyone engaging in any bad behaviour but, whatever transpires, I think I am going to need a better conversation starter than "so, you've both had your dick in me..."

I wonder if I would get any buy-in if I asked them both to blog about it? That would certainly give the blog world a new perspective on the three-way, wouldn't it?

HNT: Temptation

There is something about these new panties that says come up behind me, put your arm across my shoulders and hold me back against you, whisper dirty things in my ear while you slide your fingers down and feel me wet and waiting, open my legs and make me cum...

Don't you think?


Happy HNT, dirty darlings! Drop by on Osbasso to see who else is playing and don't forget to visit the Other HNT!

Masturbation Taboo: Dial-a-Dream # 94

The Dial-a-Dream # 94 is made by Doc Johnson and is available on Eden Fantasys.

I was surprised when I took this one out of its delightful box. It was more flexible than I expected - kind of squishy and wobbly. For some reason I thought it would be harder - a more rigid plastic. Given the flexibility of the silicone,initially I thought that I wouldn't care for it, but you know - don't judge a book by its cover, or apparently a vibrator by its bendy qualities.

This vibe is thicker at the base and head, going in a little in the middle - and where it is thinner you can bend it somewhat and it stretches comfortably, which has definite advantages in terms of giving you a little play in angles and techniques.

The round control is designed to have a raised line across it so you can turn it rather easily in the heat of the moment. It has a nice range of vibration - from mild to more intense. The mild end of things would be good for starting slow and the intensity of the hardest vibe isn't as strong as a bullet, but then I would argue that it doesn't need to be. The way the shaft vibrates is delightful - unlike some g-spot vibes the intensity is not all focused in the end - I think likely because of its silicone material the vibration goes all the way down the shaft of the toy, providing more stimulation.

Despite the range of vibration, I pretty much kept it at close to the highest setting the whole time. When playing with a toy I am not a subtle vibration person, so for me the lower settings are not a necessity.

The thing I enjoyed the most about this is also the thing I enjoyed least - the fact that the head has a smaller sub head that points the other way makes it fantastic for clit stimulation. I mean toss that sucker over your clit like a bridge over horny water and you will not be disappointed. That being said this aspect of it also has what is for me a downside - it meant that when I was using it in rather than on the second head had a tendency to vibrate my ass which I found distracting from what for me was the main event. Personally, when I am working on having a g-spot moment, I find the ass accompaniment a little too much. This is either distracting or fabulous in that regard, it might delight or irritate depending on what it is that gets you off.

The first time I used I quite enjoyed it. That being said, it didn't quite get me there all on its own, although I do think it has potential. Generally I am the type that needs the addition of a little clit action either via bodies rubbing or via finger accompaniment, but this one has a good angle on its head that was definitely working for me. Despite the lack of solo g-spot explosive orgasm, when I was on the verge of cumming the combination of the vibe and fingers on my clit got me there with a delightful intensity.

All in all I am a fan of this one. It definitely provides good g-spot stimulation compared to some of the other g-spot vibes I have tried and the price point is hard to beat: at $23.99 I would have to say it is of exceptional quality for the money.